Difficult People

Imagine sitting in a staff meeting, and every time you offer a suggestion someone looks at you and shakes her head. Or a co-worker consistently “forgets” to invite you to meetings. It may seem trivial, but belittling behavior—or bullying—can take a toll, especially when it occurs over and over again.
Work with a shameless self-promoter? You know, the one who shows off relentlessly and even takes credit for things you’ve done? Here’s how to handle the situation.

Mark your territory

June 1, 2007 Categorized in: Difficult People

Work with space invaders?

Handling a workplace bully

June 1, 2007 Categorized in: Difficult People

Studies show that one in four employees suffers from bullying at work. Judy Fisher-Blando of the University of Phoenix offers these rules on handling the situation.
It happens at meetings more often than it should: Co-workers bad-mouth one another’s work in front of the group. Nothing is quite as frustrating as being “cut off at the knees.”
Prepare yourself for difficult interactions by singing your very own theme song in your mind.
Your co-worker, Marie, sends you a venomous e-mail, detailing how she feels you mishandled something … and she copies your boss. Now what should you do?
Keep emotionally toxic people from ruining your mood, at home and at the office. Here are actions you can take to keep the unpleasant moods of others from dragging you down.
Like the Hatfields and the McCoys, you and another worker become engaged in a feud. Only it’s not out in the open; it’s simmering under the surface. You’re in the middle of a “covert conflict.” To resolve it, first turn it into an overt conflict. Take these three steps.
You know them well: the co-worker who spends way too much time talking on the phone, and the colleague who projects boredom in staff meetings. How can you possibly tell these people that they’re hurting themselves professionally—and should you try?
You’re sitting at your desk, working productively, when in comes the Toxic Dumper … for the fifth time this week! She proceeds to commandeer your time, using you as a dumping ground for her complaints.
A co-worker asks you a way-too-personal question.
If your boss’s micromanagement interferes with your ability to do your job, quit casting yourself as a victim. You can’t change the boss, but you can influence many of the situations you face, says Harry Chambers, a trainer and author of My Way or the Highway: The Micromanagement Survival Guide.